Episode 221: Power Couple Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham Bring You ‘The Gay Agenda’

Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham

By Brendan O’Meara

Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham are the creative, queer and trans power couple behind the incredible and beautiful book The Gay Agenda: A Modern Queer History and Handbook (Morrow Gift, 2020).

You can follow them and their stationery story at ashandchess.com and follow them on Instagram @ashandchess.

We dig into where they grew up, how they met, the “so 2018” way their book came to be, and much, much more.

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Ash and Chess’s Bookshelf for the Apocalypse*

Amateur: A Reckoning with Gender, Identity, and Masculinity by Thomas Page McBee
The Twits by Roald Dahl
The Hike by Drew Magary
Vampires in the Lemon Grove by Karen Russell
The Fireside Book of Children’s Songs
*: These are not affiliate links. Brendan does not get a commission based on book sales, though he acknowledges this is probably really stupid not to.

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Episode 220: The ‘Unreality’ of Elisa Gabbert

By Brendan O’Meara

Elisa Gabbert is back, baby.

She’s got a new book out called The Unreality of Memory (FSG, 2020). It’s a killer collection of disaster essays and what we’ve come to expect from Elisa, which is to say deeply intellectual, observant, incredibly researched with just a dash of the personal.

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I brought back the Bookshelf for the Apocalypse, a CNF Pod deep cut of how I’d ask guests what books were so important to them that they’d pack them in their survival pack for the end of the world. You have that to look forward to towards the end of the show. Enjoy, friend.

Elisa’s Bookshelf for the Apocalypse

Moby Dick
Howards End
Collection of John Ashbery’s work
Collection of Susan Sontag’s early work
The Journals of Sylvia Plath

Other Books by Elisa Gabbert

The Word Pretty
The Self Unstable
L’Heure Bleue, or the Judy Poems

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Episode 219: Matt Hongoltz-Hetling — $30 Stories, Brute-Force Freelancing (And Some Bears)

Matthew Hongoltz-Hetling

By Brendan O’Meara

This was a fun one. Matthew Hongoltz-Hetling came to play ball, CNFers and I think he’s really going to show you a thing or two.

While working menial jobs, he started writing stories for local papers for $30 and from there slowly leveled up, always pitching, always pitching, until he had stories in The Atavist, The Seattle Times, Weather.com, USA TODAY, and, at last, his incredible book A Libertarian Walks into a Bear: The Utopian Plot to Liberate an American Town (And Some Bears).

You can find him at his website and on Twitter @hh_matt.

I love how Matt talks about his “brute-force method” of pitching, which is what it sounds like: pitch until your arm hangs off, deal with a low batting average, and eventually things will stick.

I think you’re going to dig this conversation a lot and if you do, know that the podcast is fueled by five-star reviews on Apple Podcasts. It’s true.

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Episode 218: Mary Pilon, Louisa Thomas, Seasoned Losers

Louisa Thomas
Mary Pilon

By Brendan O’Meara

What a treat to welcome back Mary Pilon and Louisa Thomas to the podcast.

Both are brilliant writers and reporters, bestselling authors, Best American Sports Writing alums, you name it. They’re here to talk about the book they co-edited called Losers: Dispatches from the Other Side of the Scoreboard (Penguin).

The conversation starts out with Mary and me and then Louisa jumps in about halfway through.

So many great insights in what it means and what it reveals to be a loser. Mary and Louisa say they are “seasoned losers,” so we dive into that a bit.

Mary is the author of The Monopolists and The Kevin Show.

Louisa is the author of Conscience, Louisa: The Extraordinary Life of Mrs. Adams, and Mind and Matter.

Let me know what you think about this episode and what struck you about their brilliant insights into writing and losing. Keep the conversation going on social media @CNFPod, though I’m detoxing until I finish my book, so if I don’t give you digital fist bumps or a James Hetfield gif, that’s why.

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Episode 217: Lidia Yuknavitch on Usefulness, Riding the Wave, and Being a Word Creature

Lidia Yuknavitch. Photo credit William Anthony

By Brendan O’Meara

Hey, CNFers, guess who’s here? Lidia Yuknavitch! She’s @LidiaYuknavitch on Twitter and @lidiasmiles on Instagram.

She’s the author of Scribd original “Letter to My Rage,” as well as the critically acclaimed memoir The Chronology of Water.

She also had a wildly popular TED Talk that I’ve seen a few times and love it every time. Check it:

Lidia doesn’t get much cooler and you’re going to love her approach to being useful, how the energy to write builds like a wave — and not the way you’re thinking about a wave right now, shouldering the door open and the “hotness” of the woman-writer-titans that cracked the world open for her.

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Episode 216: All-Star Break and a Work-in-Progress

Raph, the space cadet

By Brendan O’Meara

This episode was made possible by Scrivener, by writers, for writers, and if you enter the promo coupon NONFICTION at checkout, you get 20% regular versions of Scrivener for macOS and Windows.

Hey there, CNFer, let’s come right out and say it: no interview this week.

I know, I know.

No worries, it’s fine, it’s all good. I put all my research and reading eggs into one basket for an interview that’s embargoed until November. So I decided to put together an all-star team of the ten most downloaded episodes (actually 11 since there was a tie).

And as a bonus, I read a work-in-progress, a little essay called “Raph, the Space Cadet.” It’s one in a series of essays I’m writing about middle school.

I hope you dig it. It helps to show you I’m in the mud, too, right?

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Episode 215: Jean Guerrero on Community, Journalism in the Age of Trump, and Her Stephen Miller Biography ‘Hatemonger’

Jean Guerrero

By Brendan O’Meara

Jean Guerrero (@jeanguerre) makes her return to the podcast to talk about her new book Hatemonger: Stephen Miller, Donald Trump, and the White Nationalist Agenda (William Morrow, 2020).

She told me:

It’s a whole new world. I remember I was reporting for the Stephen Miller book, I went to Trump’s first reelection rally in Orlando. And it was the first time that I had ever been in a place where I felt reluctant and kind of scared to tell people that I was a journalist. I wasn’t there undercover. I was there to interview people. It made me nervous to be walking around with my notebook out because there were so many chants against journalists.

In this episode we talk about networking as community, or community as networking, blasting through this book in six months, and getting to the bottom of Stephen Miller (Hint: There isn’t much depth.).

Jean was also on the show about two years ago, so you’ll want to check that out.

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Episode 214: Seyward Darby’s Deep Dive into the ‘Sisters of Hate’

Seyward (Say-Word) Darby

By Brendan O’Meara

Seyward Darby is here to talk about her book Sisters in Hate: American Women on the Front Lines of White Nationalism.

It’s a great book, tightly told.

Seyward talks about how editing The Atavist Magazine has made her a better writer, how she was able to write this book while holding down her full-time job, and three core tenets of why people get drawn into the vitriole of white nationalism.

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Episode 213: Tornados, BDSM Potlucks? Welcome to Tomboyland with Melissa Faliveno

Melissa Faliveno. Photo Credit: Maggie Walsh

By Brendan O’Meara

Stepping up to the plate this week is Melissa Faliveno (@melissafaliveno), author of Tomboyland, a collection of essays published by Topple Books.

It’s a love letter to her midwest roots and the topics are so wide ranging, yet have this connective tissue that once you’re in the thick of reading it you like “How the fuck did she do this?”

Seriously.

In this episode we talk about how she finds the groove, her workspace, the books she keeps on her desk, softball, BDSM, and F5 tornados.

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Melissa’s work has appeared in Bitch magazine, the Millions, Prairie Schooner, Isthmus, DIAGRAM, Midwestern Gothic, and Green Mountains Review. She’s a Best American Essays notable writer as well.

Please enjoy this conversation, friend.

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Episode 212: Kevin Guilfoile on Uncovering the Chaos and ‘A Drive into the Gap’

Kevin Guilfoile

By Brendan O’Meara

Kevin Guilfoile (@kevinguilfoile) is the author of the memoir A Drive into the Gap (Field Notes, 2012).

It’s a wonderful story about memory, fathers and sons, and the hunt for the identity of Roberto Clemente’s bat, the one that struck his 3,000th and final hit.

Kevin shares stories about his time growing up in Cooperstown, home of the baseball Hall of Fame and dealing with a young Barry Bonds while an intern for the Pittsburgh Pirates.

He’s written two novels and one movie and I loved it when he said, “You become a writer by writing.”

It’s the same sentiment that Austin Kleon espouses: In order to be the noun, you have to do the verb.

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